Misery loves company

It never dawned on me that we subconsciously want others to suffer with us when we are hurting. I always thought of it as just telling someone how you felt not really trying to make them suffer. When I look back, I realized that everytime my parents would make me go somewhere with them or do something for them that I did not want to do, I would try everything I could to make sure my parents were unhappy as well. I still have not changed. It feels strange to admit that you purposely wanted to cause someone pain because you were unhappy. What goes through our mind is that if I am unhappy because of what someone else did to me or said to me then I want them to feel that unhappiness. You do not want them to get away with causing you pain; you want revenge; an eye for an eye. No matter how much you hurt, it makes you feel a little better that someone else is hurting. This feeling is the reason why so many kids who are tormented in school end up shooting up their school to seek revenge or commit suicide. By shooting those who tormented him, he now starts to feel better knowing that others are now in pain. If the kid ends up committing suicide, his family members and even those who did not notice him are now filled with guilt or are grieving.